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| Our Wedding Day |
I remember looking at him that morning and thinking that I could never love this man more than I did as I looked into his eyes at that moment. I stood there gazing into his eyes silently praying my bitchy soon to be Monster in Law would not interrupt the ceremony. (shockingly she didn't interrupt but she did show up halfway through our vows.) We have been through so much together as a couple through the years and even when things threatened to tear us apart, we became closer in the end. I look back now and am astonished at just how much more deeply in love we are.
Best advice I can give to any couple is Communicate. Speak up when you are upset, don't let it fester inside. When angry don't say hurtful things and always say your sorry. Don't talk bad about your spouse to anyone, it doesn't make you feel better to vent. It just reinforces the negative feeling. Be their cheerleader, crow their good deeds and accomplishments. Declare your love for each other often and express it even more. You are now a part of a whole. Treat them as the other half that makes you whole. Continue to always date each other even if it ends up being a bag of popcorn and a shared movie in bed after the kids go to sleep. Never leave the getting to know you phase. You will both be growing and changing through the years. I know I am not the same person he started dating almost 18 years ago.
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| Senior Prom |
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| Junior Prom |
Looking at our pictures here I swear his face has changed more than mine. My change has all been in hair color. I now sport a super awesome racing stripe of silver grey near my temple. I'm slowly starting to look like some comic book villain or leader of a secret group of super hereoes.
It was at my Junior Prom that he proposed to me for the first time. They had stupid little fake wedding ceremonies going on at prom. (I don't know why.. Vegas I guess) Standing there laughing with my friends about how stupid the fake ceremony is and how it is our teachers doing these cheese fest ceremonies. When Dan gets down on one knee and asks me to marry him. Instantly I feel like everyone is watching us. I blush deeply and tell him, "Yes, yes let's go get in the stupid line get off the ground."
I am blessed to say that my husband is my best friend. He's
my Addiction too. It's really not my fault. It's his fault because he's mostly amazing. I say mostly because he can sing, dance, really good sense of humor, and has great looking into his 30's (no grey hair yet.. the lucky bastard) He is no paragon he has his annoying habits as well; like shedding clothing like Bruce Almighty (they stay where they fall) or hair from shaving is always left as evidence that he actually did shave.
I'm no angel either. I'm sure I annoy the crap out of him some of the time. (okay a lot of the time, but he says I'm worth it) I'm so grateful this man fell so deep in love with me. He says the moment he met me it was like time stopped and everything else faded away.
We rarely go out, with 5 kids can you really blame us? Instead we spend our time together playing Final Fantasy 11. I joke that he only had me start playing because he needed a healer. This way sure is a lot cheaper of a date night than to get a babysitter, movie tickets and have to be around annoying people coughing /sneezing. ::throws a gummy bear::
My idea of a great date night is take-out in bed with netflix/video games. Dessert of
chocolate fondue and a late night of laughing. It works for us, it may not work for you. Find what fills your cup as a couple. Do more of that. Be open to trying something they like, you never know.. you could enjoy it as well.
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| Gunnerace and Lunarine on Leviathan server FFXI |
